John WilliamsDirector

John is the director of Pure Mind Online, a Sexual Integrity Mentor and a licensed mental health counselor. He has a Masters in Marriage and Family Therapy, and helped develop the Energize! Couples Retreats. He is working to create a network of Accountability Partners for men. For help finding an Accountability Partner contact John at
Bruce ClarkeAccountability Partner

Bruce Clarke has recently taken the Braveheart’s University course, as well as Pure Mind Online Accountability Partner training. With over 20 years in the fields of secondary education and youth ministry, he’s committed to helping men, young and old, face and win the battle for sexual integrity. A father of one teenage son, and husband to his wife for 28 years. For help, contact him at:
Dawn DillingerAccountability Partner Coordinator

Dawn is working to create a network of Accountability Partners to support women in their recovery from a pornography habit. She is dedicated to helping Blessed couples create healthy and happy marriages. To get in touch with an Accountability Partner for women please contact her at

Making the Right Choice

Find someone you trust

There are certain key characteristics we are looking for:

1. Same gender if possible. They can more easily understand your vulnerabilities and, if necessary, your excuses.

2.  Able keep confidentiality. Do you have evidence they can keep secrets?

3. Mature enough to take it seriously. This is why a peer may not be suitable sometimes.

4.  Challenging, but not condemning. Can they challenge you to live your own ideals, without looking down on you? Remember, sometimes we think  someone will be more judgemental  than they really are; we project our own shame and guilt on them or label them as “the church.” If they otherwise fit, give them the benefit of the doubt and ask them.

And consider you may need more than one, each with different strengths.

Whom not to choose

If you are engaged or blessed in marriage, it is often unwise to have your fiance(e) or spouse be your primary Accountability Partner. It could be too stressful for both of you. In that case, a better arrangement may be for you or for your Accountability Partner to give them a summary of your progress.

Also, don’t choose someone who is  prone to make excuses for your messing up and not serious about helping you overcome. This would include someone who is rationalizing their own irresponsible behavior in some key area of their life.

For  example,  this kind of exchange is useless: “I slipped up and binged this week. ” “Yeah, me too. Oh, well. Talk next week.” This is what Covenant Eyes calls “a circle of cheap confession by which you obtain cheap peace for your troubled conscience.”


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