Truth, Trust, Understanding and Support Liberates Porn Users

Truth, Trust, Understanding and Support Liberates Porn Users

Sometimes we don’t want to tell the truth, and sometimes we don’t want to know the truth. However, the foundation of a good marriage is honesty and trust. When we bring our struggles and problems out in the open, we create a way for God to work. Creating an Environment for Recovery In the following video, Crescentia DeGoede shares her testimony. Her fiance’s honesty about his struggle with porn helped them to work through the problem together. She shares how this problem affected her after marriage, as well as her husband’s commitment to recover. By trusting him, and believing in…

How can I support my partner’s recovery?

How can I support my partner’s recovery?

The most supportive thing one person can do for another is to believe in them and be there for them. It’s really important for you to let your partner own their own problem. At the same time, you have to own your own problem, which is probably discouragement. Have Courage and Own Your Own Happiness There are so many things to be happy about and grateful for in life that we don’t have to let other people’s problems bring us down. You might say, “but we’re a couple, isn’t our happiness tied to each other?” Hopefully it will get to…

Spiritual Support For Spouses

Spiritual Support For Spouses

Between husband and wife, or an engaged couple, it’s best not to focus on your partner’s “problems” or “undesirable habits.” Although you don’t need to sweep those things under the rug, taking a positive approach will be more helpful for both of you. A very good place to start then is within yourself, caring for your own mind and heart. How that happens may be different for each person, depending on personality. How can I attract the most spiritual support? 1. Find strength Share your struggles and successes with your Heavenly Parent. Be honest about your own weaknesses so that you…

How Can I Support My Partner’s Recovery?

How Can I Support My Partner’s Recovery?

The only place to start anything is within yourself. That doesn’t mean you’ve done anything wrong, it’s just that you can’t control what others do. You can only manage your own mind, body and emotions, and doing that will have an impact on others. Supportive Steps Here’s a list of steps that other spouses have found beneficial in supporting their partner’s recovery: 1. Become  informed Understanding the recovery process lets you know how to give support. Change doesn’t happen overnight. Make use of your time by learning all you can about the habit, it’s effects, and the stages of recovery….

How do I cope with the effects of my partner’s pornography habit?

How do I cope with the effects of my partner’s pornography habit?

Spouses of porn addicts need recovery support, too. It’s understandable that you would feel upset, even hurt, when you first discover the problem. However, in any relationship, overly emotional reactions can make a problem worse. You do need to be able to express how you feel in a constructive way, but your spouse may not be ready to deal with the impact that their habit has on you. Don’t try to do this alone. While you are trying to overcome your reactions to their habit it may be helpful to seek counseling or join a support group. Your path towards…