Get Specific By Making A List of SUD’s

Get Specific By Making A List of SUD’s

One way to learn more about your habit is to make note of seemingly unimportant decisions— SUD’s. These choices typically lead up to viewing porn. They seem like harmless thoughts or actions, but in your life they lead to the habit. Consider your thoughts and feelings when you make these decisions. Is there another trigger or urge prompting you? Could you create a different routine if you didn’t feel this need? Notice What Leads You to View Porn  Is it staying up late alone? Shutting the office or bedroom door? Turning to a certain kind of music? Logging on at night…

Get Committed – Reframe Your Journey

Get Committed – Reframe Your Journey

What would compel you to be committed to a cause? You can find your strongest motivation by using your imagination. Taste the freedom of having overcome Relax in a calm place and as vividly as you can, imagine five or 10 years from now, being free of this habit. Picture all that you will gain–within yourself, for the ones you love, and the dreams you will realize.  Let yourself enjoy the rewards of your struggle in advance by savoring the feelings of freedom and power. Write your vision down, to remind yourself why the struggle is worth it. Read it…

Get Specific – Plan for Emergencies

Get Specific – Plan for Emergencies

“If you fail to plan, you are planning to fail!” – Benjamin Franklin There is another saying, “When at your best, prepare for the worst.” A classic mistake that anyone in recovery can make is to get overconfident and complacent after an initial period of success. We think we are stronger than we are, and don’t recognize the weaknesses we still have–which will become clear when we’re under enough stress. Avoid The Most Common Triggers Don’t let yourself get ambushed by the inevitable “perfect storm” of bad conditions: Fatigue, boredom, fear or loneliness coupled with unlimited time on a computer. Also plan…

Get Informed – Expect Recovery to be a Lifestyle

Get Informed – Expect Recovery to be a Lifestyle

People who lose weight and keep it off say that temporary diets don’t work. They had to set up a new way of life, full of new routines, new pleasures and new preferences. Sometimes even making new friends and associates is necessary if you really want to change your life. Changing Your Lifestyle Addiction is more than just the abuse of a drug or some activity. This habit can effect a lot of your daily life and routines. How do you spend your time, effort, and money? Can you see how your sexual habits affect these choices? It stands to reason then…

Get Informed – Anticipate Relapses

Get Informed – Anticipate Relapses

When learning any new skill or behavior, it’s inevitable to slip up once in awhile and revert to old habits. Relapses are common in the beginning of the process of change. This usually happens during times of high stress when you just go without thinking for what is familiar and comforting. A Slip Up Is Not Failure This slip up or lapse can be minor–like grabbing a donut when on a diet. You can quickly get back on track, or you can spiral downward rapidly. Before you know it you’re back into your full-blown habit, called a relapse. Getting smart…

Get Specific – Study the Habit

Get Specific – Study the Habit

Before embarking on any effort to change old routines, it is best to plan well for the challenges ahead. Many an individual who now says, “I can’t change,” is someone who tried to stop foolishly. Closer to the truth is: “I can successfully change–if I prepare realistically.” Then get specific information that will help you change. Study the Habit Thoroughly Overconfidence is a common mistake. If you impulsively try to stop your habit without realistic support and anticipating setbacks, you risk a crash and burn that will erode your hope and motivation. Take the time to learn everything you can about…

Get Connected – Expand your social circle

Get Connected – Expand your social circle

A brick needs six other bricks to stabilize it within a wall: two on each side, two above, two below. So it is best to have at least six people in your life that you are close to in those positions. Examine Your Relationships Check your range of social contacts. Do you have two close friends? Do you have good friends of both genders? Are any of these people someone you could confide in? Consider vertical relationships–elders and youngers. Do you have older people you can go to for support? Are you mentoring or caring for someone younger than you? If…

Get Informed – Learn About Change

Get Informed – Learn About Change

Whether it’s quitting smoking, going to the gym or learning to play golf, change is a process, not a one time event. It involves predictable stages. And each stage needs different resources for progress to happen. What’s The Process? Think of any change you’ve made, like losing weight. At first, you may not have felt any need. Then, you started toying with the idea and investigated the possibility. Next you began to  prepare by learning about diets and exercise. Maybe you bought some equipment, a diet book, or joined a gym. Finally you took action, started a new routine of…

Get Informed About the Habit

Get Informed About the Habit

It’s one thing to learn about your habit and how it affects your mind and heart, your relationships and even society. It’s another thing to understand about how change takes place and the path of healing and recovery from the habit and its effects. Just as you wouldn’t think of renovating your garage without understanding how it’s done and what to expect, so you need to become familiar with what it takes to renovate yourself. Understand How the Habit Works The way a well-formed habit works has been studied. Something that makes you think of it is a trigger–seeing something, feeling…

Get Connected – Don’t Let Loneliness Be Your Trigger

Get Connected – Don’t Let Loneliness Be Your Trigger

A youth pastor who remained a virgin until his marriage at 30 said, “Whenever I got a sexual urge, I took it as a signal that I needed other people, and I reached out to my friends and family.” Sex-related habits are most clearly a substitute for our need for true love, and so strong and healthy relations with others is the best remedy and  protection. Loneliness Is A Trigger For Porn Use In addition, the use of porn is associated with greater loneliness, since it interferes with connecting with other people on an emotional and spiritual level. On the…