Get Specific By Making A List of SUD’s

Get Specific By Making A List of SUD’s

One way to learn more about your habit is to make note of seemingly unimportant decisions— SUD’s. These choices typically lead up to viewing porn. They seem like harmless thoughts or actions, but in your life they lead to the habit. Consider your thoughts and feelings when you make these decisions. Is there another trigger or urge prompting you? Could you create a different routine if you didn’t feel this need? Notice What Leads You to View Porn  Is it staying up late alone? Shutting the office or bedroom door? Turning to a certain kind of music? Logging on at night…

Get Committed – Reframe Your Journey

Get Committed – Reframe Your Journey

What would compel you to be committed to a cause? You can find your strongest motivation by using your imagination. Taste the freedom of having overcome Relax in a calm place and as vividly as you can, imagine five or 10 years from now, being free of this habit. Picture all that you will gain–within yourself, for the ones you love, and the dreams you will realize.  Let yourself enjoy the rewards of your struggle in advance by savoring the feelings of freedom and power. Write your vision down, to remind yourself why the struggle is worth it. Read it…

Sex Miseducation – How Does Maturity Relate To Sex?

Sex Miseducation – How Does Maturity Relate To Sex?

Part 4 of a 5 part series on sex mis-education Doesn’t Sexual Experience Make You More Mature? Another misconception. Some people think that having sex only in marriage restricts growth and creates sexual inhibitions. Quite the opposite is true. Research shows1 that happily married couples gain the most satisfaction from sex due to the comfortable intimacy and security of a committed relationship. A wide range of sexual partners prohibits depth in a relationship. It does not allow a person to “explore the farthest reaches of love and the self”, because it is primarily focused on the external experience. People are complex creatures…

Get Specific – Plan for Emergencies

Get Specific – Plan for Emergencies

“If you fail to plan, you are planning to fail!” – Benjamin Franklin There is another saying, “When at your best, prepare for the worst.” A classic mistake that anyone in recovery can make is to get overconfident and complacent after an initial period of success. We think we are stronger than we are, and don’t recognize the weaknesses we still have–which will become clear when we’re under enough stress. Avoid The Most Common Triggers Don’t let yourself get ambushed by the inevitable “perfect storm” of bad conditions: Fatigue, boredom, fear or loneliness coupled with unlimited time on a computer. Also plan…

Get Informed – Expect Recovery to be a Lifestyle

Get Informed – Expect Recovery to be a Lifestyle

People who lose weight and keep it off say that temporary diets don’t work. They had to set up a new way of life, full of new routines, new pleasures and new preferences. Sometimes even making new friends and associates is necessary if you really want to change your life. Changing Your Lifestyle Addiction is more than just the abuse of a drug or some activity. This habit can effect a lot of your daily life and routines. How do you spend your time, effort, and money? Can you see how your sexual habits affect these choices? It stands to reason then…

Get Honest – About Unrealistic Expectations

Get Honest – About Unrealistic Expectations

Recognize that your viewpoint about your porn habit may be skewed. Your rationalizations to yourself may not include the whole picture. It has become a normal way of life to you and probably your friends. You aren’t fully aware of how harmful the habit is, and how it’s has changed you. Face The Harm Done Twenty years ago, looking at such hard-core porn as is now available was considered disgusting and depraved. Currently for many people, it is commonplace and unsurprising. Your spouse or romantic partner is not yet desensitized and is having a reasonable reaction. Add to this, that many spouses…

Contemporary Culture VS Unificationism On Sexuality

Contemporary Culture VS Unificationism On Sexuality

Contemporary culture tells us the following two contradictory messages about sex: 1. It is everything. You can’t live without it and no one should be expected to resist the urge. You gotta have it all the time, and talk about getting it when you aren’t having it. It’s the ultimate experience, and you should get as much as you can with as many as you can. 2. It is nothing. No big deal. Like having a sandwich, like scratching an itch. Do it when there’s nothing on TV. Do it when somebody–anybody–turns you on, and you don’t want the bother…

Sex Miseducation – Natural vs Intentional

Sex Miseducation – Natural vs Intentional

Part 2 of a 4 part series on Sex Mis-education Pure Mind Online affirms that marriage is the ideal context for pleasurable sex and bonding. When a couple abstains from sex until pledging this type of commitment to each other, it is the most authentic expression of love. Waiting for sex until marriage is the only way to limit any potential drawbacks. Isn’t sex just a natural expression of love? Sure, it is instinctive for romantic love to want to express itself sexually. Yet it is also natural for true love to want the best for the beloved, and for their…

Talk With Your Kids About Sex

Talk With Your Kids About Sex

Traditionally, parents find that talking with children about sex is one of the most difficult things they have to do. Parents struggle to know what to say and when to say it. In today’s culture it’s even more difficult, because our children could be exposed to porn before we’ve even thought about discussing sex with them. Lay the Foundation for Future Talks Create an atmosphere in your home that allows your children to feel they can talk to you about anything. You can do this by listening well and not overreacting when your child is troubled about something. Your children…

Get Informed – Anticipate Relapses

Get Informed – Anticipate Relapses

When learning any new skill or behavior, it’s inevitable to slip up once in awhile and revert to old habits. Relapses are common in the beginning of the process of change. This usually happens during times of high stress when you just go without thinking for what is familiar and comforting. A Slip Up Is Not Failure This slip up or lapse can be minor–like grabbing a donut when on a diet. You can quickly get back on track, or you can spiral downward rapidly. Before you know it you’re back into your full-blown habit, called a relapse. Getting smart…