90 Days Clean: Day 53 – A Humbling Week

90 Days Clean: Day 53 – A Humbling Week

So, since my last year streak, I think this is the longest I’ve gone being sober without being in a 21 or 40-day workshop! It feels really good I must say, but this past week has not been easy; it’s been humbling. Push the Help Button For the first time in a very long time I used the “I’m triggered” button on rTribe. Which I would recommend using by the way. I think a big part of my recovery is completely dropping the myth that I can get through this alone. This battle with pornography has been a very humbling…

90 Days Clean: Passing the Big Four Zero!

90 Days Clean: Passing the Big Four Zero!

Yes! This is awesome. I have officially passed forty days of being porn free. Thank you, thank you. Day 45, and it really has been a long time since I could say I’ve been more than forty days without watching porn. It feels pretty good. That said this week has not been easy. A part of me really wishes that this is just going to be smooth sailing from here on out. Like this whole porn thing can be a thing of the past and something that doesn’t pop up on my radar. For you folks who’ve been sober longer…

90 Days Clean: Day 38 What I’ve Learned

90 Days Clean: Day 38 What I’ve Learned

Today is Day 38 being sober from pornography. On a difficulty scale of one to ten, the past week has been probably around a two. I’ve had moments here and there wanting to watch porn, but it wasn’t all that hard to just say no. It definitely helps knowing that I’d have to share my slip-up on this blog. So since I started in the middle of this quest, I want to catch you up on what it was like for the first few weeks. How I Got to Day 38 I have to admit that coming back from the…

90 Days Porn Clean: Join My Journey

90 Days Porn Clean: Join My Journey

There I was, a 13-year old kid waking up on my living room couch. It’s dark, around midnight. I can’t sleep so I turn on the TV and start flipping through channels – and there it is. A porn commercial on Spike TV. My heart is racing. I feel guilty but at the same time excited, intrigued, aroused. A voice in my head says “this is wrong, turn it off!” But I don’t listen. A minute passes, the commercial ends and I go to sleep. This was my first introduction to porn. From Curiosity to Porn Addiction Before that, I…

What Sends You Down That Road?

What Sends You Down That Road?

If you’re going to take a trip, it starts with a thought and a desire first. Maybe you see a photo of an exotic island in a travel magazine. You entertain thoughts of what it would be like. You wonder how much it would cost and when you could go. Then you start to search for tickets online. It was just an idea, and before you know it you’re taking action. You can’t afford to go on this trip, but that doesn’t stop you from fantasizing about it. Understanding the Activation Sequence This sequence of events leading to that tropical vacation…

Love, Sex and All That Jazz

Love, Sex and All That Jazz

Here is a challenge for you. Do a Google search with the question below and see how many answers you get. If there is one thing human beings are confused about – it’s love. What is Love? If you could unlock the answer to this question you would be the genius of all time. Some say love is chemistry, and some say love is passionate commitment. The Greeks had 6 words for what we lump into one word, no wonder it’s confusing. However, we know when we feel loved. Yet, to love someone doesn’t always feel good. That’s usually when…

Sex With No Hands Involved

Sex With No Hands Involved

Are porn videos realistic? Actors assume awkward positions so that cameras can get the shot. Actors are also made to do extreme sexual acts that under normal circumstances would be painful, or undesirable for most people. It’s fantasy meant to shock and stimulate the release hormones and neurotransmitters, which trap the user into seeking more. Does Internet Porn Cause More Violence? In 1982, the National Institute of Mental Health identified these major effects on children viewing violence on television: Children may become less sensitive to pain and suffering. Children become more fearful of the world around them. Children are more likely to behave in…

Why Do I Need Sexual Integrity Mentoring?

Why Do I Need Sexual Integrity Mentoring?

You might be wondering if sexual integrity mentoring is necessary. Isn’t an accountability partner enough? Or maybe you’re wondering how these two approaches are different, or if you need both. The Process of Getting Untangled from a Bad Habit Michael Leahy, CEO of Brave Hearts Mentoring Solutions, often refers to a Sexual Integrity Mentor as being like a Sherpa guide – someone who has been to the mountaintop many times and can lead you there. A guide knows the path well, with all of its pitfalls and stumbling blocks. He is an expert who knows how to make the most of…

Erectile Dysfunction at 22? A Symptom of Early Porn Addiction

Erectile Dysfunction at 22? A Symptom of Early Porn Addiction

Driven by a brain that is suddenly fascinated by sex at 10 years old, boys easily become captivated by internet porn. Children can develop personal sexual integrity and discipline if parents teach them about love, privacy, respect, and future relationships, starting from a young age.  But we also need to teach them how to deal with temptation and peer pressure. It’s wise to reduce overall internet activity and guide children’s free time toward hobbies, sports and healthy activities. Many young men found internet porn at a young age, and now experience erectile dysfunction in early adulthood. Usually guys discover they have…

What’s Next? – Moving Forward After the High Noon Summit

What’s Next? – Moving Forward After the High Noon Summit

The High Noon Summit on Porn was a great success! Your heart may have been moved by the passionate speakers, or someone who gave a testimony. Many of you made a commitment to work with Pure Mind Online to create a culture of sexual integrity, or to rid your own life of sexual sin. Let’s look at some immediate results: Join the Movement – Summit on the Ground! This is a great start for creating a culture of sexual integrity that we can be proud of. We’ve also started a Summit Facebook group where you can share your thoughts and keep…

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