9 Ways To Be a Supportive Mentor or Accountability Partner

9 Ways To Be a Supportive Mentor or Accountability Partner

Would you like to help a friend who’s struggling, but you don’t know how? Sometimes it’s hard to know what to say. That’s why John Williams has put together this short presentation. How to Talk to Your Friend Even if you’re not an Accountability Partner, these 9 points will help anyone learn how to be more supportive. Remember, someone with a porn habit is struggling and already feels a lot of guilt. If it were easy to overcome this habit they wouldn’t need help. When they started watching porn they didn’t know how hard it would be to stop. It’s…

Accountability Partner Training Materials

Accountability Partner Training Materials

If you are a good friend and you like to help others succeed then you can be an Accountability Partner. Your interest and concern is valuable, but your method can make or break the relationship. Learn How You Can Help Reading the reports from the chosen accountability software is important, and not so difficult. What’s far more meaningful is what happens after that. How do you respond? How do you engage your friend in discussing their progress? It’s a good idea to learn as much as you can before you start this journey of helping someone become accountable. Below you’ll…

Get Skilled – In Healthy Lovemaking

Get Skilled – In Healthy Lovemaking

Part of recovery from the habit is to gain a better understanding of a healthy sexual relationship. However, if you’re single it’s best to think as little about sex as possible while you’re recovering from a porn habit. Married couples should do some research on the subject of lovemaking. Learn about the differences between men and women, and what a happily married sex life looks like. How To Create A Passionate Love Life Pornography “sells” its unrealistic and warped sex education very vividly. To counter this you need to re-educate yourself about lovemaking. With a new understanding and vision, you can create…

Sex Miseducation – Marriage, Oppression and Sexual Rights

Sex Miseducation – Marriage, Oppression and Sexual Rights

This is the 5th post in a 5 part series on sex mis-education Doesn’t Sex Only in Marriage Oppress Women? Some claim that purity and fidelity are based solely on protecting men’s property rights over their women. Though this is an exaggeration, there is some truth to the assertion that traditional morality is linked to male exploitation of women. Certainly there has been a double standard; chastity has almost universally been enforced for women but not for men. Boys and men have often been free to indulge themselves at the cost of girls and women. But it has been mostly women who…

Should I Be An Accountability Partner?

Should I Be An Accountability Partner?

“You use steel to sharpen steel, and one friend sharpens another.” – Proverbs 27.17 Everyone benefits from a friendly reminder. It helps us stay focused on our goals. The person who does the reminding benefits as well. They become more aware of the value of discipline and integrity in their own lives. Be the Friendly Reminder Maybe someone has asked you to be an Accountability Partner. They need help to overcome their habit, and you are someone they trust. That’s a big step for them, and they’re only asking you to be a person who can offer that friendly reminder. Or perhaps you…

Get Specific By Making A List of SUD’s

Get Specific By Making A List of SUD’s

One way to learn more about your habit is to make note of seemingly unimportant decisions— SUD’s. These choices typically lead up to viewing porn. They seem like harmless thoughts or actions, but in your life they lead to the habit. Consider your thoughts and feelings when you make these decisions. Is there another trigger or urge prompting you? Could you create a different routine if you didn’t feel this need? Notice What Leads You to View Porn  Is it staying up late alone? Shutting the office or bedroom door? Turning to a certain kind of music? Logging on at night…

Get Committed – Reframe Your Journey

Get Committed – Reframe Your Journey

What would compel you to be committed to a cause? You can find your strongest motivation by using your imagination. Taste the freedom of having overcome Relax in a calm place and as vividly as you can, imagine five or 10 years from now, being free of this habit. Picture all that you will gain–within yourself, for the ones you love, and the dreams you will realize.  Let yourself enjoy the rewards of your struggle in advance by savoring the feelings of freedom and power. Write your vision down, to remind yourself why the struggle is worth it. Read it…

Sex Miseducation – How Does Maturity Relate To Sex?

Sex Miseducation – How Does Maturity Relate To Sex?

Part 4 of a 5 part series on sex mis-education Doesn’t Sexual Experience Make You More Mature? Another misconception. Some people think that having sex only in marriage restricts growth and creates sexual inhibitions. Quite the opposite is true. Research shows1 that happily married couples gain the most satisfaction from sex due to the comfortable intimacy and security of a committed relationship. A wide range of sexual partners prohibits depth in a relationship. It does not allow a person to “explore the farthest reaches of love and the self”, because it is primarily focused on the external experience. People are complex creatures…

Get Specific – Plan for Emergencies

Get Specific – Plan for Emergencies

“If you fail to plan, you are planning to fail!” – Benjamin Franklin There is another saying, “When at your best, prepare for the worst.” A classic mistake that anyone in recovery can make is to get overconfident and complacent after an initial period of success. We think we are stronger than we are, and don’t recognize the weaknesses we still have–which will become clear when we’re under enough stress. Avoid The Most Common Triggers Don’t let yourself get ambushed by the inevitable “perfect storm” of bad conditions: Fatigue, boredom, fear or loneliness coupled with unlimited time on a computer. Also plan…

Get Informed – Expect Recovery to be a Lifestyle

Get Informed – Expect Recovery to be a Lifestyle

People who lose weight and keep it off say that temporary diets don’t work. They had to set up a new way of life, full of new routines, new pleasures and new preferences. Sometimes even making new friends and associates is necessary if you really want to change your life. Changing Your Lifestyle Addiction is more than just the abuse of a drug or some activity. This habit can effect a lot of your daily life and routines. How do you spend your time, effort, and money? Can you see how your sexual habits affect these choices? It stands to reason then…

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