Hello everyone! I want to make this post short and to the point. This past week has had a few struggles here and there. I’ve had my fair share of triggers, but I can say that it honestly isn’t that hard anymore to keep this up.
Better Habits Build Strength
From my experience of getting clean so far, I can say that it does get easier. What has happened is, the practices I was making effort to put in place earlier in this journey have now become ingrained in just how I live my life. For example, I don’t let myself stay at home alone for long periods of time without something to really get engrossed in.
In the first few weeks I was putting things in my calendar to make sure I wouldn’t be home alone. But now it’s just become natural. I check in regularly on rTribe, and I often read articles on overcoming pornography. So even though there is still the same amount of temptation out there, it’s become easier because I’ve become stronger.
A Strategy to Ensure Victory
One of the habits that I haven’t talked about much is making bigger commitments. I’m a big fan of Tony Robbins, and one of the things he says is, “if you want to take the island, burn your boats.” Imagine you are attacking an island, the best way to ensure victory is to take away the possibility of retreat. How does this play out in our daily lives, and especially in fighting a porn habit?
One way to “burn your boat,” is making commitments in life public. I think the more you make commitments public, the less chance there is for old habits to kick in and derail you from reaching the goal.
So how do I do that? I’m doing that right now in this blog. I’ve committed to the team that I’m going to do this for 90 days. I committed publicly to my support group. I’ve also publicly admitted my porn addiction and commitment to recovery to hundreds of people. Each time I add another action like this it’s like I’m pouring more gasoline on the fire that is burning away my escape route.
Bold steps carry over in life
The great thing is, if you can put great habits into your recovery structure you can also use those in other areas. I create the same habits in my study of foreign languages. I do it for my career, and for pursuing my passions. I create events even though I am scared that no one will show up. However when I release the dates in public, then there is no going back.
It’s not the easiest step to take, but believe in your strength and be a little bold. Burn your boats.
That’s all for this week! Thank you so much for reading.
TO BE CONTINUED…
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