Here is a challenge for you. Do a Google search with the question below and see how many answers you get. If there is one thing human beings are confused about – it’s love.
What is Love?
If you could unlock the answer to this question you would be the genius of all time. Some say love is chemistry, and some say love is passionate commitment. The Greeks had 6 words for what we lump into one word, no wonder it’s confusing.
However, we know when we feel loved. Yet, to love someone doesn’t always feel good. That’s usually when we start questioning – as in the song “What is Love” by Haddaway, “…baby don’t hurt me no more”…
“I don’t know why you’re not fair
I give you my love, but you don’t care
So what is right and what is wrong?
Gimme a sign…”
Where does your definition come from?
Everyone has some type of expectation about love, what it is and what it’s not, but our expectations are not all the same. Some say love is a feeling, an emotion, while others call it a decision or an action. Literature, music and movies color our mental landscape with all sorts of notions about love; yet it remains one of the greatest sources of tragedy in human history.
If someone could just come up with a simple definition that everyone could agree on, we might be able to start experiencing it. In Psychology Today, one author says that love is too big to define, so instead she describes what it isn’t:
“An orgasm can be bought, but love cannot…Only something else pretending to be love can be used as a lure, as a hook, for bait and switch, imitated, insinuated, but the real deal can never be delivered if it doesn’t spring freely from the heart.” – Deborah Anapol Ph.D, Love Without Limits
A Model of Love
Fortunately, most of us grew up in at least a somewhat loving family. This is where our impressions of love originate. But no family is perfect, and our perceptions as a child are immature. This can add up to a love deficit, or a need, a craving that we seek to fulfill.
But then there is God, who has sent many messengers, teachers, guides and healers to help us develop a heart of love:
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” – 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” – Rumi
“If you truly loved yourself, you could never hurt another.” – Buddha
“The focal point of the universe is harmonizing, noble love. When you move with such a heart, the whole universe is turned by you and you feel joy.” … “The sexual organs of man and woman are the most holy places, and the place of Sabbath. If you love your husband or wife, you are in heaven.” – Sun Myung Moon
You create your loving heart
You have heard it said that God is Love. We know that human beings cannot exist without love, yet we seem to persevere in a conflict with love. The task of life is to learn to love, for love is a seed that needs to be watered and nurtured.
So your task is this: Learn from the masters of true love. Open yourself to the possibility that the seed of God who is love exists within you, and it’s your job to help it grow and manifest in a most beautiful and unique way.