Driven by a brain that is suddenly fascinated by sex at 10 years old, boys easily become captivated by internet porn. Children can develop personal sexual integrity and discipline if parents teach them about love, privacy, respect, and future relationships, starting from a young age.  But we also need to teach them how to deal with temptation and peer pressure. It’s wise to reduce overall internet activity and guide children’s free time toward hobbies, sports and healthy activities.

Many young men found internet porn at a young age, and now experience erectile dysfunction in early adulthood. Usually guys discover they have this problem when they try to have a real relationship after years of porn addiction. Watching porn and masturbating has killed their ability to have sex in a natural relationship. The problem is due to physical changes in the brain instead of the usual age related changes that cause erectile dysfunction in older men (so Viagra is not a solution).

Arousal Addiction

Scientists have found that novelty triggers arousal, but this is only one aspect of sexual interest. Although the brain has base animal instincts, humans are much more than that. The survival and happiness of human beings depends more on other areas of the brain involving higher mental and emotional functions.

Unfortunately, internet porn causes arousal addiction, trapping the user in a cycle of craving more arousal. Too much novelty all the time releases too much dopamine – it’s like being on drugs. When the dopamine wears off, the mind and body crave more, which causes bingeing and locks in the cycle. The brain becomes hyper-reactive to porn, which causes a reduced interest in normal sexual relationships. The frontal cortex of the brain actually changes.

Unhook From Porn

Humans were not designed to be addicts, and internet porn is not real sex. The brain’s reward circuit ensures that we survive by natural means, not just physically but mentally and emotionally as well. That’s why when people become addicts they experience unpleasant side effects, driving them to find a solution.

The sex that all people want most happens within a loving and caring relationship. A real relationship involves getting to know someone, feeling safe, accepted, and comfortable. On that foundation we are able to touch and be touched. It’s a completely different cycle where the heart and mind have the last say about what happens.

(Watch this Ted Talk for more complete info on this subject) 

The Rebirth of Guys

Fortunately, men are highly motivated to solve this problem. Realizing that they unknowingly became the victim of internet porn, men are kicking the habit. Other side effects of porn addiction are often treated medically but overlooked as symptoms of porn addiction:

  • Depression
  • Loss of interest in other activities
  • Social Anxiety
  • Memory Impairment
  • Inability to keep a job or stay in school

It’s a good thing that the brain can change. Recovery is possible, although the process can be difficult. Some people experience the result of kicking the porn habit as a kind of rebirth. After successfully abstaining from porn for 2 months, one young man notes:

“My anxiety is nonexistent, my memory and focus are sharper than they’ve ever been, my ED is gone, I seriously think I have a second chance at life.” 

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