Sometimes we don’t want to tell the truth, and sometimes we don’t want to know the truth. However, the foundation of a good marriage is honesty and trust. When we bring our struggles and problems out in the open, we create a way for God to work.

Creating an Environment for Recovery

In the following video, Crescentia DeGoede shares her testimony. Her fiance’s honesty about his struggle with porn helped them to work through the problem together. She shares how this problem affected her after marriage, as well as her husband’s commitment to recover. By trusting him, and believing in his integrity, she was unknowingly helping him.

By making the relationship more important than the problem, this couple could create an intimate relationship that was joyful for both of them. The happiness found within their relationship eventually replaced the desire for porn.

Is Marriage the Solution for Porn Addiction?

Trying to replace a porn addiction with marriage or a new relationship is not the message in this video. Many have gotten married with that intention only to find that marriage is not the cure. There are some key points here that allowed this relationship to support recovery:

  • A commitment to the recovery process
  • Honesty, openness and trust
  • An unselfish desire to give joy to the other
  • A willingness to learn and grow emotionally
  • A support network

Don’t Get Stuck in Despair

Crescentia gives spouses some very wise advise. Although a partner has every right to feel unhappy, hurt or angry, the important thing is to not get stuck in those feelings. To move beyond the power of such strong emotions requires the ability to recognise and be grateful for what is good. This is part of loving unconditionally.

Understanding breeds compassion; so a spouse should learn how porn affects the brain and causes addiction. Husband and wife both need a support network. For this reason, Pure Mind Online wants to work with you to create support networks in the communities where you live. We urge you to attend the High Noon Summit, and work with us to restore and environment where true love can grow.

 

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