When you first find out that someone you care about has a porn habit you might feel like pulling away. You might be upset or angry, or you might feel like you have to do something to help them. All of these feelings are natural, but think through your responses before you get involved.

Encourage Them to Get Help

A porn habit is like any other serious addiction. The relationship between the brain and body has been rewired into a state of dependency. It can take a lot of training and effort to change this habit. In some cases psychological counseling may be necessary.

Familiarize yourself with the many resources your friend can use to get help. You can point out recovery programs and Pure Mind Online Sexual Integrity Mentors, as well as the Accountability App. Encourage them to think about their long term relationship goals and how their habit can interfere with their hope for the future.


Be Hopeful and Positive

Listen to the success stories of others to help yourself stay hopeful. You can show them what you’ve learned, but you can’t make them change. They have to own their choices to change them.

To learn more about how you can help a friend, brother or sister – Attend the High Noon Summit on Porn, April 7 to 9, 2017

 

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Once your friend or sibling has started on a path toward recovery, your positive attitude will be a great support. Relate to them as if they didn’t have this problem. Just be a steadfast friend, brother or sister. Be a good example in the way you live your own life.


Help them focus on the positive parts of their life

As a friend or sibling, you may have fond memories of better times. Share those fun stories and laugh together. Share the things you love and appreciate about your friend, brother or sister, to remind them of who they really are. Try to engage them in activities that you both enjoy.


Change happens not by focusing on the problem, but by focusing on the alternatives. Your friend or sibling needs to make a lot of changes, but the power to do that can only come from within. However, your friendship and support could be a strong motivating factor.


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