The most supportive thing one person can do for another is to believe in them and be there for them. It’s really important for you to let your partner own their own problem. At the same time, you have to own your own problem, which is probably discouragement.
Have Courage and Own Your Own Happiness
There are so many things to be happy about and grateful for in life that we don’t have to let other people’s problems bring us down. You might say, “but we’re a couple, isn’t our happiness tied to each other?” Hopefully it will get to that point one day. Until then, you must create your own happiness in healthy ways.
By taking this approach you become a silent role model. Also, you lift a weight from your partner by not making them responsible for your happiness. Feeling guilty about your misery is not going to help them focus on the changes they need to make.
Learn Support Methods that Work
1. Become informed
Understanding the recovery process lets you know how to give support. Read up on the recovery program your partner chooses and check out any info they have for partners.
2. Become inspired
Strengthen your motivation by listening to testimonies of other couples who have successfully overcome these issues. Watch the videos on our PORN FREE channel.
3. Become approachable
Prepare yourself to listen to your spouse nonjudgmentally and with true love. They are probably already judging themselves enough, so adding to that won’t help.
4. Become constructive
Understand positive ways to respond to your spouse’s habit. You can even ask them how they would like you to respond. Men and women have different methods and needs when it comes to communication, so it’s a good idea to study how to communicate with the opposite sex. Also, consider your partner’s personality and love language so you can communicate in a way that they will be receptive to.
5. Become effective
Learn how to be supportive within proper boundaries. There’s a difference between compassion and sympathy. Don’t be a doormat.
6. Become focused
Understand your role and what you can offer to your spouse’s recovery. Focus on giving them the time and space they need to work out their own problem. At the same time, be willing to take part in counseling or any other support meetings. Be a friend by encouraging your partner to enjoy life in new ways with you.