Think about what you want to accomplish in life and how you want to live. Are there things you could be learning that would help you achieve those goals? Perhaps you could enhance some of the skills or hobbies you already have.

Are you unhappy with your job? Maybe you make good money but you really don’t enjoy your chosen profession. Maybe you’d like to go back to school, or just take a few classes.

Stop Being Entertained

Watching porn puts you in a kind of trance where time and space seem to vanish, and this provides an escape from unwanted feelings. A healthier version of this can be found in any engaging pastime, like writing, music, working on cars, cooking and photography to name a few.

The most important aspect of a good hobby is being active, not passive–watching television and otherwise being entertained is passive. You need to experiment to find one or two active hobbies that fit your personality and situation. It’s good to make plans to reach goals that are exciting.

Doing anything constructive that you enjoy, and that is absorbing, rewires the brain away from an old habit. If you’re not sure where to begin, it can sometimes be helpful to develop an alternate “addiction” temporarily, such as video games or other easy distractions. Only while you’re learning to rebalance the rest of your life, and with the intention to find a more healthy and creative pursuit once you’ve kicked the porn habit.

Start Living Actively

You don’t have to be like everyone else, but you can learn from what others do. It doesn’t have to cost a lot of money or take a lot of time. Find something that will absorb your interest and focus your time and energy in a more active and healthy direction. The lists in the links below can be a starting point.


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